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Welcome to The More than
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Just a Doctor Podcast.
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I’m your host, Lil Surprenant MD.
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I’m a life coach for physicians,
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a practicing
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hospitalist, a wife, a mom of two boys,
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a reader, a dancer, a dolphin enthusiast,
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and all the things
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just like me.
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You’re more than just a doctor.
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And that’s what we’re
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going to talk about each week.
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Doctor stuff regular life stuff
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and all the things that make life rich
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and interesting.
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I’m so glad you’re here.
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Let’s get started.
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All right.
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Welcome, my friends.
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I'm Lil Surprenant
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I'm your host of this podcast,
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More than Just a Doctor.
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And today
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I have another short
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and sweet episode for you.
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This is just a little thought exercise
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to get you heading in the
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direction of a life you love
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if you don't love your life now.
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This is something to work toward.
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If you do love your life now,
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I still want you to do this exercise
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because one, I love appreciating
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what you have
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and kind of fluffing up that enjoyment
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until you may do this exercise
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and feel like something.
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There's a tweak for maximum enjoyment.
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So I did this myself just yesterday
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this is what got me thinking about it
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And what I what I want to invite
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you all to do is write down a schedule
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like your actual week from three years
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from now,
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a regular week,
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not your vacation to Bali or whatever,
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but your regular week,
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and write down
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what you actually want to be doing.
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I find this I found this interesting
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for myself.
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One, because it wasn't
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too far from actually doing
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and it actually did make me question
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in my head,
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do I have a failure of imagination?
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But actually it's
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I spent the last day
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like really reflecting on this.
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And I actually think
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No, I don't think so.
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I think I've spent a lot of years
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sort of heading towards
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days and weeks and then months and years
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filled with stuff
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So
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so basically, all I want you to do
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is put yourself
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three years in the future.
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And three years is, in my mind,
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sort of a good conceivable distance.
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It gives you like some time between now
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and then.
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If your week on your ideal list
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doesn't look like your week now,
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it gives you
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some time to work towards it.
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And that feels like an
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actual achievable goal.
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And why I want you to write down
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like your actual schedule,
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what you actually want to be doing
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instead of a list of goals
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for that time
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is I think I'm all for goals.
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Don't get me wrong,
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this is another way of coming
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at creating that life that you love.
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I really I really think it
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it benefits us to think like,
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what do I actually want to be doing
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on a Tuesday?
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Not some fantasy of,
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that I actually really enjoy doing.
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and retire early in
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and do whatever I want.
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Like, okay, literally
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what does whatever you want mean?
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So here's what I suggest.
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Like, really let yourself go
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wild like anything you want is possible.
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This is just a regular week.
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So for me,
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that's a week during the school year.
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My, my three year imagination
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is that the kids are at school
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during their the Monday
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through Friday and like,
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this is what I'm like actually doing
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Monday.
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And I wrote down
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like kind of like you would on a calendar
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like what I want with time to actually
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be filled with
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another reason.
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I think this is helpful
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and maybe not for all of you.
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Maybe some of you don't do what I do,
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which is in my head.
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I think of more things
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that I want to be doing
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than could
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possibly fit
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into a fucking day or a week.
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So when I make myself
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actually write down like, okay, like,
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what does this schedule look like?
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That I’m
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doing like the things
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I most want to be doing in three years.
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Like, I literally had to be like, okay,
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I wrote one and it didn't have
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as much time for exercise
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as I actually want to be doing.
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So I, like, shoveled some stuff around.
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So basically start Monday
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as if you're sort of
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writing out a schedule for yourself
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and your three years in the future.
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You're doing exactly what you want to do
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and what does that look like?
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So the things that you might want
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to put on
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the calendar would be, you know,
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are you going to be exercising?
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And I put like specific exercise
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on some of the days.
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Like I put Wednesday,
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I'd be working with a personal trainer
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before ten in the morning,
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like,
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so not crazy
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in Friday dance class at 10 a.m..
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So now like crazy specific,
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but kind of given a flesh outline
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so I could actually imagine myself
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going through the week.
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I put the days that I want
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a housekeeper to come.
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I get the day that I would
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have a meeting with
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my team,
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what days I'd be running
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errands, the whole thing.
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So start
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I did Monday through
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Friday, fairly scheduled.
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Like our lives typically are my
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you know,
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our lives are typically
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a little more scheduled Monday
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through Friday
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and see what it looked like.
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And then the weekend I put, you know,
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a couple of things I'd like to be doing.
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And for me I found
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is actually
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not too far off from what I'm doing now.
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So yeah,
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basically it's coaching.
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I kind of squish the hours, so
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coaching about the same amount of hours,
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but I'm compacted them.
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So then I have some chunks of time
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to do some stuff
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I'm not doing now regularly,
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but that I would like to like
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go into the library, go into a museum,
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make long bike rides like more scheduled
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chunks of
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leisure time.
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That's something that I really look
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forward to.
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I've had that in the past
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and I've sort of
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gotten away from that.
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So that's I'm just looking at my lists
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and talking to you guys.
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That's kind of what my ideal week
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looks like. That's my three year week.
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And so I'm going to be
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thinking about this
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as I'm making schedule changes
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over the next year or so,
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tweaking this so that it fits more
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into this ideal schedule
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that I've cooked up.
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And for mine, mine
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actually did look fairly
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similar to what I'm doing now,
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but I want to invite you
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your schedule, ideal schedule
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for your three year
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future self does not have to look at all
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similar to what you're doing now,
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and I want you to allow yourself
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to write it down,
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even if it seems totally insane
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if you are right now
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a doctor in clinic Monday through Friday
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and you want to be training horses
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or riding horses or whatever three days
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a week
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as your ideal, like,
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what are you doing on a Tuesday?
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Like, write it down.
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We'll never get
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to where we want to be
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if we don't acknowledge
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our deepest wishes.
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That's going to theme
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the last couple episodes.
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So this is just another tool
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to get you thinking
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and playing around with this.
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And as always,
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I love to hear from you guys.
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If you've done some thought on this
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and you've come up with anything,
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please let me know.
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Reach out an email or DM me or
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come up to me at the hospital of you
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see me there
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and I want to hear what your ideal week
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on a regular week
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looks like in three years.
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Have a great day.
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Bye.
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